Is Surrogate Motherhood for You?

If you’re looking for a way to help others, and you are a woman who can conceive and carry a baby, becoming a surrogate may be a good option for you.

Choosing surrogacy is not an easy decision. You’ll need to decide which form of surrogacy makes sense for you, meet a number of requirements in order to become an eligible surrogate mother, and prepare for the emotional aspects associated with surrogacy. Below, we discuss these aspects of surrogacy in further detail so that you can determine whether or not surrogate motherhood is right for you.

Types of Surrogacy Arrangements

When preparing for surrogacy, you’ll need to learn about the different types of surrogacy arrangements that are available to you. There are two forms of surrogacy, traditional surrogacy and gestational surrogacy.

In a traditional surrogacy arrangement, the surrogate mother will be the biological parent of the baby, as her own egg is used in intrauterine insemination with the sperm of either a donor or the intended father. This form of surrogacy can be a great option as it is much more cost effective and there are fewer medical procedures.

Gestational surrogacy involves in vitro fertilization. The surrogate mother is implanted with a fertilized embryo of either the intended parents or donor egg and sperm. Though gestational surrogacy is much more expensive than a traditional surrogacy arrangement, many intended parents will choose this option when they want to be the biological parents of their child.

As can be seen, there are many pros and cons to both forms of surrogacy. If you have additional questions, you can reach out to your surrogacy counselor for more information.

Qualifying to Become a Surrogate

In order to become a surrogate, you’ll need to meet very specific criteria. These requirements are put in place to ensure both your safety, as the surrogate mother, and that of the baby you’ll be carrying. To begin, you should have already had one uncomplicated, healthy pregnancy, labor and delivery. This demonstrates that your body can carry and deliver a child. Other qualifications include:

  • Being free of sexually transmitted infections
  • Not taking any anti-depressants or anti-anxiety drugs
  • Having a Body Mass Index of less than 30
  • Be between the ages of 21 and 45
  • Be willing to undergo extensive mental health evaluations
  • Abstaining from smoking and illicit drug use

Also, you should expect to follow a healthy diet, have your own transportation to and from your prenatal appointments, and not receive any government assistance benefits. This is because your base compensation rate may render you ineligible for such benefits.

There are many other requirements that you may need to meet. Your surrogacy counselor will address these in your first appointment.

The Emotional Path of Surrogacy

Ohe of the most important questions you must ask yourself before deciding to move forward with a surrogacy agreement is- “Am I prepared to carry someone else’s child?”.

Though it’s very easy to say you won’t develop an emotional attachment to the baby you carried, it is not uncommon for surrogates to feel as though the baby is theirs, when in fact, the baby is the child of the intended parents.

For surrogates who have an emotional attachment to the baby, parting ways can be devastating and in some cases, traumatic. You need to be 100% certain that you are prepared to carry the baby, go through labor and delivery, and then step aside and let the baby’s rightful parents raise him or her.

This question of emotional attachment will come up in your mental health evaluations. You can also discuss them with your surrogacy counselor.

Contact a Reputable Surrogacy Agency

If after reviewing the details provided above you believe that surrogate motherhood is the path for you, reach out to a legitimate surrogacy service who can match you with a family who has been longing for a child of their own. Your surrogacy counselor can answer any further questions you might have about your upcoming surrogacy journey.